Spencer R. Hayes
August 22, 1986 - October 25, 2012
Spencer R. Hayes, of Clawson, died as a passenger in a car accident Thursday, October 25, 2012. He was 26 years old. He was born August 22, 1986 in Detroit, MI to parents Tina (nee Jack) and Rob Hayes.

Spencer graduated from Clawson High School in 2004, where he was a State finalist and MVP Cross-country runner. He received his Bachelors in Education from Oakland University this year and was a dedicated elementary school teacher for the Huron Valley School System. Spencer was a very skilled and exuberant gamer of all types and a hilarious jokester. He was a devoted and caring soul to countless friends and family. He will be deeply missed.

Spencer is survived by his loving parents, Rob and Tina Hayes; beloved sister, Anna Hayes; grandmothers, Iris Hayes and Lillian Kirchner; numerous Aunts, Uncles, and Cousins. He is also survived by his Icrontic family, Huron Valley School family, and Clawson Public School Childcare family. Spencer is preceded in death by his grandfathers, Kenneth Hayes and Donald Jack.

Memorial gathering at Lynch & Sons Funeral Home, 1368 N. Crooks Rd. (between 14-15 Mile Rds.) Tuesday 4pm until time of the memorial service at 7pm. 

For an article about Spencer and his Icrontic family please visit http://icrontic.com/article/icrontic-celebrates-the-life-of-spencer-hayes.
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The Faloppa family sends their deepest sympathy. This is an unbelievable loss and we are so very sorry.

Kim Faloppa

Anna and Mr and Mrs. Hayes: Simply too heartbreaking for words. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Amber O'Bryan

I was so sorry to hear of the loss of Spencer, He worked with my grandchildren at the Clawson Schools, They loved him. He was one of their favorite of the teachers in the summer and after school programs. They are so saddened and tearful with his passing. My family has you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. To soon for a wonderful young man,but know he made a big and wonderful pres-sense in children's lives.

Elaine Pearcy

"Mr. Spencer" was one of our daughter Hayden's very favorite after care and Summer progam teachers. I had the opportunity to watch Hayden at play a couple of times and always noticed what a remarkable connection and bond Spencer had with all of the children. They were drawn to his kindness and his ability to make them smile. Our prayers are with his family and all of those who loved him. You made the world a brighter place Spencer. You really did.

Mark and Kimberly Middlewood

Dear Tina and family, I am so sad to hear the tragic news of Spencer's untimely death. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through and how deeply you all must be hurting. Losing a child has to be the hardest thing a parent must endure. The fact that Spencer was in the prime of his life, is especially difficult. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that the love of your family and friends will help carry you through. And may your memories of the short time you had Spencer in your life sustain you.

Cyndi Peltonen

I had the pleasure of working with Spencer for 4 years at Clawson Childcare Center. He was so great with the kids and he will be sorely missed. My heart goes out to his family. He touched so many lives and he will not be forgotten. RIP "Spencinator."

Jill Hauser

My profound sympathy to Spencer's family at this tragic time. I worked with him this summer at Schalm and was struck by how absoluetly wonderful and patient he was with the children. Please know how deeply his untimely passing affects so very many.

Karen Allen

On behalf of the whole community of Brooks Elementary School, I would like the family to know just how sad we are for you. Spencer was a great addition to our team. He was liked (a great deal) by the staff and admired by our students. We will miss him dearly.

Steven Chisik

Spencer was patron of a comic book store I use to worked at. He started coming in at age 14. over the years we became good friends. For awhile every sunday night him and a bunch of other would come by my place and we would play magic the gathering all night long. I looked up to him...he was one of those good friends that made you want to be a better person. You always saw the best in me Spencer and you were the best at being a great person.

Kevin lafferty

It was my honor to work with Spencer at Heritage Elementary. He made a positive impact on our staff and students. Our staff is thinking of your family during this difficult time.

Deirdre Brady

Tina and family, My heart is breaking for you. There are no words. My thougts and prayers are with you.

Peggy Reggio

Dear Tina And Family, My experience with Spencer was in watching him help children as the school day ended, while he helped gather them into the right line for the bus. At such a busy time of the day, he had patience and warmth while making sure each one was in the right place. Then I learned from many that he was loved and admired by the children and staff at Clawson Childcare. With news of the recent accident, I learned that this young man that I had watched was your son, Tina. You and your family, as well as all his other families, are in my prayers. May God be at your side.

Deborah Nickles

Spencer was a big part of our Brooks family. Our kids will miss him dearly as our staff will also. He was such a big help with the computer lab and other computer issues. Our hearts are with the family at such a sad time. We will miss yoiu Spencer..

Bonnie Montante

I am so sorry for your loss.

Curtis Barnauskas

My heart goes out to the Hayes family. Spencer was an incredible person and amazing friend. I have known him since kindergarten and will miss hi every day. You are all in my prayers!

Katie Kunze

I am so sorry to hear about your family's great loss of a wonderful young man, son, brother, nephew, and grandson. I was Spencer's middle school counselor, and he was a very active member and served as an officer in our National Junior Honor Society. He was a gentle soul, liked by all, and always willing to give 100% in all that he attempted. I feel very lucky to have known him, and my heart goes out to your entire family as you remember all of the ways that he has left this world a better place. May you all be comforted by the memories and love that will continue with you forever.

Mary Geib

My thoughts and prayers our with you and your family

Sharon remillard

I am deeply sorry to hear of the passing of Spencer. I am friends with Spencer's sister Anna. The Hayes family are in my thoughts.

Julieanne Nusly

I am a teacher at Brooks, one of the schools where Spencer worked. My contact with him was minimal as my kids didn't have him, but I was very impressed by the care, compassion, and enthusiasm that he displayed with the students as I witnessed his interaction with them. He will be missed. My prayers are with you that God will support and love you at this very difficult time.

Lois Kelly

Dear Mr. and Mrs Hayes, I'm very sorry about what happened. Mr. Hayes was my favorite computer teacher at Heritage Elementary. I'm really going to miss him.

Sadie Guffy

The entire Huron Valley School family passes on our thoughts and prayers to your family. In a very short time, Spencer made a very large impact on hundreds of our students and their families. We are so sorry for you loss and we will miss Spencer at Huron Valley. Jim Baker

Jim Baker

To the family, words cannot explain how deeply sorry I am for your loss. I had the pleasure to come back to Clawson and work this past summer with Spencer and we had a blast. I'm going to miss exchanging our teaching ideas, our running stories and cracking jokes on each other. He has touched so many lives and will be missed dearly. Rest in Heaven Spencer...

Dela Jackson

Spencer was a great young man. He will definitely be missed. He helped take care of my 2 boys at Clawson Childcare Center for the last 5 years. He was their favorite. I'm glad he was part of our life. I always enjoyed talking to him when I picked up my kids.

Melissa Weatherford

The Hayes family is in our thoughts and prayers. We are so sorry for your loss. The Bolme Family

Mary Bolme

so sorry for you lose.

Brian LaPine

Dear Family, Spencer was my daughter's third grade technology teacher at Brooks. She said "he was a great and funny teacher," she spoke very highly of him and just loved him. On Wednesday he was giving her guidance on her power point project. I am also a teacher at Brooks and he was a breath of fresh air! He made us laugh at lunch and he will truly be missed. Our deepest sympathy, Annemarie and Alyssa Brinkman

Annemarie and Alyssa Brinkman

Spencer touched so many people in his short time at Brooks. The children and staff will miss him deeply. My prayers are with his family and friends at this sad time. God Bless you Spencer.

Kathy Kahayian

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Hayes, Family and Friends of Spencer, It was a pleasure to work with Spencer over the last few months at Johnson Elementary. As one of his co-workers, I truly enjoyed his sense of humor. I loved watching his passion for working with his students in the computer lab. In the short time, I got to know Spencer, my life was enriched. He will be missed at Johnson. My prayers and thoughts go with you all.

Linda Tadajewski

Mr. and Mrs. Hayes, I'm praying for your family as you face this terrible tragedy. The sorrow of losing your son, especially when you've raised such a compassionate young man, is unimaginable. I am so very sorry for your loss. Susan Robertson ( Johnson parent and fellow guest-teacher)

Susan Robertson

Dearest Tina and Family, There are no words to express such a loss, knowing he is well loved and will be carried in our hearts will hopefully bring you all some comfort from such a devestating blow. Love to all......Anita

Anita House

He was a happy, spirited, young force that will be missed by all our children at Heritage Elementary School. As a Mother, I am so sorry for your loss, but please know that he made a difference and had positive impact at our school.

Eileen Stevens

Mr. Hayes was really funny and we really looked forward to going to his class. He taught us things about the computer that nobody else ever had. He always brought joy to us. We will miss his a lot. Ruby Stevens and Megan Taggart

Ruby Stevens & Megan Taggart

Spencer was a co-worker of mine at Johnson, as well as my daughter's teacher. He was a pleasure to work with.He had such a great sense of humor and his passion for teaching was obvious. He will be missed terribly.

Brooke Black

To the Hayes Family, We are so sorry for your loss. My grandchildren went to Kenwood after school care and summer camp...Spencer was great with the children. May God give you comfort in this time of sorrow.

White/McLaughlin Family

While we mourn the loss of a great man, we feel blessed and honored that he was a part of Heritage Elementary. Our sincere thoughts and prayers are with you. With deepest sympathy, Dawn Kemezis

The Kemezis Family

To Rob Hayes and family, Where do broken Hearts go? David said, "From the ends of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed; lead me to the rock that is higher than I." Psalm 61:2. Father, we thank you that when we feel overwhelmed by circumstances, your Holy Spirit will lead us to the rock Jesus Christ. In his name we pray, Amen.

Debra McCray

What a fun person to be around! We will miss him and his positive attitude. He fit right in at Heritage!

Diane Koenig

Mr. Spencer was my daughters favorite, she use to come home will all kinds of funny stories of the things they did and the games they played. Its very sad to see such a driven young mans life cut short, Spencer was a true blessing. Your family is in our prayers.

Masters/Kolodin Family

Sending your family my most heartfelt condolences during this time. Spencer was my daughter's teacher at summer camp this past year. She absolutely adored him. I was deeply saddened by this news. He will be so greatly missed. He was such a wonderful guy!!! Love to your family. Staci, Mike & Emma Barkkari

Staci Barkkari

I just want to express how sorry I am for your loss. I worked with Spencer at Huron Valley Schools and through conversation we discovered that we were both Clawson alumni as well. Spencer touched the lives of many children and staff in the short time he worked for HVS. He was well liked and a passionate individual. He will be missed. Prayers to you and your family.

Tere Patterson

My son told me this morning he dreamed he went to computer class and Spencer Hayes was there and he really didn't pass away. He said he was so happy in his dream because Spencer was still there. My prayers are with all his family and students because his loss will affect so many and he will be missed by all who knew him.

Jessica Piroli

The entire Icrontic family extends our deepest and most sincere condolences to the Hayes family. Spencer touched lives all over the world, and our global online community was stronger for having had him in our lives. The lesson we have all learned is that time with special people in our lives is not to be taken for granted. Spencer, thank you for everything you've done for our community. You will never be forgotten.

Brian Ambrozy

My thoughts go out to the Hayes family at this truly sad time. Spencer was one of the good ones, and I count myself lucky to have known him and to have shared a few laughs from time to time.

Tiffany Esshaki

Hayes family, I am so sorry for your loss. While it has been years since I last saw Spencer, I have many great memories of him from high school. He was truly one of the nicest guys anyone could hope to know. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Rachel (Cobb) Klaus

Spencer had a special gift with Children. Our daughter was with him after school for latchkey and through the summer program the past several years. This past summer she did not attend and he was what she missed the most Mr. Spencer and his video games. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. He will be missed by many.

The Sipples

Our condolences to the Hayes family. Spencer cared for our two children in the Clawson latchkey and summer programs. My kids were deeply saddened to hear the news. He was energetic and always interacting with the kids, he had an infectious smile and upbeat attitude. He will be sorely missed.

The Snyder Family

I am so sorry for your loss. Spencer was my son's (Alex) student teacher last year and he was one of Alex's favorite parts of last year. I was lucky to spend time with him on a field trip and was so impressed by what a kind young man he was. Our prayers are with you.

Deanne Haenke

We are so sorry for your loss. My daughter Kimberly was one of his students. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

The Difazio Family

Mr Hayes was a kind teacher i will miss him for ever <3 brooks school

Damien Conway

Our daughter, Emily, had Mr. Hayes as a student teacher in her 5th grade class at Keller Elementary in Royal Oak last year. Emily came home daily with a story about Mr. Hayes. His caring ways, sense of humor and interest in the children learning made a big impact on Emily and I'm sure the rest of the class. Our deepest sympathies to your entire family. This is a big loss to the larger community as a whole of a bright young adult making a difference.

Mike, Connie & Emily Thompson

Mr. And Mrs. Hayes and family, I am very sad to hear of this tragedy. I worked with Spencer for a short time at Heritage. With just the few conversations we had, I thought he was a great guy. He was really excited to be a teacher. We will all miss him dearly at school. My deepest condolences, Tyra Fortson

Tyra Fortson

We were very sorry to hear of your loss. Spencer cared for our grandchildren, Chandler & Hannah, at Kenwood shcool's latchkey. He was very good with the kids and they were never excited to leave when we came to pick them up. You are in our prayers.

C. Mark & Debbie Clark

in my mind, he will always be on the other end of a headset.


Dear Rob, Tina and Anna - I did not have the chance to meet Spencer but know what a wonderful man he was from the conversations we had Rob when you expressed how proud you were of Spencer. Your great love for each other and family will be a blessing as time passes without him. He was part of a happy and blessed family!

Marianne Beach-Langlois

So sorry for your lose, our prayers are with you and your family. Magri/Heater Family

Magri/Heater Family

My deepest condolences to the family and friends of Spencer. I did not know him personally, but he seemed to always be in my house. With my Fiance playing online games with him and hearing, "noooooSpencer, don't go that way!!!" Or something to that effect. :-) I know in his Icrontic Family his death has hit a spot that can never be refilled. May he rest in peace.

Cheryl Campa

Spencer Hayes was a great dilight to our heritage family in all favor I will miss that great smile that I saw when I walked into the computer lab :)


Rob and Tina- No words can soften the pain, but please know you have many, many friends who will help share your memories of Spencer. My thoughts and prayers to you and all of us.

Bob Hawkins

We never get used to the death of someone we love,because we truly were not created to die,but to live! But it is important to remember that when people die they leave something very special behind...They leave us memories of the things they said and did. As long as we have those memories the people we love will live on in our hearts and minds. In the Bible, God tells us at John 5:28-29 that our loved ones will not be forsaken by Him. Just as you will cherish memories of your Spencer, God will remember him too and will awaken him from death's sleep to live again...May you find comfort in God's promises soon to come true, and may your memories help you to endure your loss... My Deepest Sympathy to You All!!!

sylvia colston

My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this very difficult tradegy. He was a good man!! Love you guys!


Dear Rob,Tina, Anna, My thoughts and prayers are with you.God bless you all.


Dear Hayes family, I would like to let you know Mr.Hayes was awesome at his job whenever he tought I was listening. The positive thing is now he gets to tell jokes to his papa. I will miss him dearly and sorry for your loss. From Brooks Elementary 5th grade student.

madison melvin

Mr. and Mrs. Hayes and Anna, Family and Friends of Spencer. My deepest sympathies for your loss. Spencer was a great friend when we were close. Incredibly kind and a loyal friend. My memories of the time we had together will always mean a lot to me. He was one of the good ones in this world. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Amy (Saito) Calapa

There are no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. I enjoyed Spencer when I worked at Kenwood, he was always so helpful and he was blessed with a wonderful sense of humor. I pray for Gods peace and healing for you and your family.

Paula Roger

I also Knew Spencer from the comic shop. He was a polite kid that grew to be a fine young man. It has hit us pretty hard that he was taken away so young. He always had a kind word, and was really good at cheering me up if I was down. He was a bright spot in the room, and he will be sorely missed.

Kitty Dunn

Even though I only just met Spencer a few months ago by working with him at summer camp I will never forget him. Despite the fact that I was new to camp this year and didn't really know anyone he was so sweet to me from day one and really made me feel like I was part of the clawson child care family. I looked forward to going into work everyday because of all of the laughs and smiles he provided. He was so wonderful, kind and patient with the kids and I only hope that one day I can be half of the teacher he was. Spencer made a difference in the lives of so many people and he will be truly missed.

Samantha Whitehead

We are so sorry for your loss. Both of my daughters, Jana and Jessie, had Spencer for day care and summer camp at Kenwood Elem. He will be missed. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Janet Ratzloff

Dear Hayes family, words can not express how saddened I was to hear of Spencer's passing. Working at Baker I would see Spencer and it was obvious he enjoyed the children and they loved him. My son Eric and Spencer were friends and would drive to CASA together. Two loved young men gone way too soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Kim Mendelson

Kim Mendelson

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